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Jewellery, like fashion, is often reinvented rather than created. So, how have promise rings been reinvented? Let’s dig into the history first. The idea of wearing a ring to show commitment dates back centuries. In ancient Rome, couples exchanged rings during a waiting period before marriage. During medieval England, posy rings engraved with short poems were exchanged to express a secret devotion. For reference, the Ashmolean Museum in Oxford, England, and the V&A Museum in London have outstanding collections. For an interesting read, consider Dame Joan Evans' book, English Posies and Posy Rings. While the Victorian era added a bit of sparkle, words were spelled out in gemstones.
Today, with personalised jewellery on trend, promise rings are gaining popularity and hold many meanings. They can be a pre-engagement gesture, not a formal proposal, though, but at least we know things are headed in the right direction without a timeline or pressure and without getting on one knee. A promise ring can also be a sign of fidelity, a sort of “I choose you” without the six-month pre-wedding plan. If you’re not in a couple and you receive a promise ring, it can also serve as a way to seal a friendship, a family devotion symbol, or simply as a reminder of a personal goal. “Our promise rings come with special messages. One of our bestsellers features the word 'Love' (حب). They come in different shapes and forms. Some are bespoke pieces as messages or calligraphy are personal,” says Nadine Kanso, founder and creative director of Bil Arabi.
A promise ring is a small piece of jewellery with a big message; any finger can hold it. As for design, there are no strict rules. A simple band, birthstone, or small diamond works well, while heart motifs or engraved initials add a personal touch. The cost is also flexible: promise rings typically fall well below engagement ring prices, as the focus is on sentiment rather than luxury.
The time: If you’re in a couple, give yourselves a few months in a relationship before offering it. Friends, family, and self-goals do not require a timeline.
The way: here, no rules are applied. Usually, the left hand holds many deep meanings. It states that the left hand has historical significance due to myths like the “vein of love,” known as vena amoris. Some will hold it in the right hand to avoid confusion or even wear it on a necklace.
The style: It’s not preferred to go big in style or budget. Simple, unique touches, special stones, lovely messages – the goal is to make it meaningful. After all, it’s all about the intention.
So while waiting for the tying the knot one, let’s not put high expectations. We’re getting there!
